As a child I was terrified of quicksand. So were you. Admit it.
For those of us hovering just above or below 40, movies and TV shows from our childhood generated a bona-fide phobia of running into the random batch of life-threatening quicksand. Cary Elwes and Robin Wright gasping out from quicksand in the Princess Bride’s Fire Swamp. That awful, childhood trauma-inducing scene in The Never Ending Story where Artax, the beautiful white horse, dies a horrible, quicksand-related death in the Swamp of Sadness. And the Great Pit of Carkoon from Return of the Jedi was not only a sand-pit death, it came customized with a monster to eat you.
Quicksand was legit scary, yo.
As an adult, I realize I don’t have to be on the constant lookout for quicksand. Even kids these days fear dragons and monsters, not quicksand. But there’s a different kind of quicksand we adults fear.
ADULTING IS QUICKSAND
Adult quicksand is made of jobs, bills, taxes, responsibilities, relationships, finances, family drama, life, death, surgery, disease, rejection, failure, health, struggle, kids, social media, needs, and wants, to name a few. As soon as you climb out of one batch of quicksand, you fall into another.
There’s a reason 7 out of 10 Americans take prescription drugs, with antidepressants coming in second on the list, and addictive opioids taking the bronze. Many people use their fear of the quicksand as an excuse to stay mired down.
How do the people who have obvious success avoid the quicksand? Did they get a lucky break? Did they inherit their unknown Uncle George’s enormous cinematic wealth? Maybe so. Or maybe not, kiddo. Check yourself before you wreck yourself.
Maybe they earned it. Maybe their perspective is very different from those who are constantly on the look out for roving batches of life-threatening quicksand.
A paradigm shift is defined as a fundamental change. Thomas Kuhn used the “duck-rabbit” illusion to show that a paradigm shift can make you see the same information in an entirely different way. Click on the link above. What do you see first: A rabbit or a duck? Once you’ve seen one of them, how hard is it for you to see the other?
People who filter through the disillusion and accomplish their goals have a different paradigm. They’re not preoccupied with quicksand. Instead, they recognize opportunities.
What’s your paradigm? Do you throw a ladder each day across that pit of deadly sand and zero in on accomplishing your goals? Or is your paradigm one of confusion and distraction, taking that last breath before the quicksand swallows you whole? BTW, don’t ask me where you go-no quicksand movie has EVER explained what on earth is down there.
AVOIDING THE DAILY QUICKSAND
Forbes says that successful people have 5 key traits, two of which are being willing to work, and being willing to adapt. Are you willing to do the work? How about adapt? Maybe your goal is to wake up an hour earlier every day to have coffee with your dog or your spouse. Maybe your goal is to make a million dollars or lose weight. Or it could be that your goal is to be a better parent.
Make a list of opportunities that present themselves to you. Take advantage of them, make them realities, and then check them off the list.
Do it every week. Change your paradigm. And for goodness sake, WATCH YOUR STEP!
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